I recently quit smoking. I have tried before but it's hard as hell. After about 4 months I went back to it the last time. So far this time it has been 3 months or pretty close to that. I just fell off the wagon a couple of days ago. Man quitting is hard! After smoking a few cigs over the last few days, I feel pretty comfortable that I still don't want to smoke again. Unfortunately, I bought a pack and a lighter. ($6.99, jesus, that's a lot of money) I am so nervous that I will start back up again. This little fiasco did teach me that it seems like I really am ready to quit though.
If you are an ex smoker, what do you do to stay quit? Even if you are a smoker, what are your reasons for still smoking? If you live in Michigan, what will you do after May 1st, when you won't be able to smoke anywhere but your own home, car and a couple of businesses? Let me know.
Sunday, April 11, 2010
Monday, April 5, 2010
"....But we can still be friends."
Most of us have gone through a break-up. Some of us many times over. And even fewer of us have remained friends with our ex's. This all I assume. I don't really have any hard data showing the statistics of break-ups remaining friends, but I feel that I can safely say that this doesn't happen very often.
From my experiences, it may seem like the other person may be a good friend after the break up, but in reality it is just a way of holding onto what the two of you shared together. This is not all bad, of course. Every relationship has its ups and downs. It is good to remember the good times, but don't let the good times over shadow the bad ones to the point of questioning your relationship status. This is the problem some people have in remaining friends with an ex. It is comfortable to be around this person and you don't want that comfort to end. It is hard starting over. So, within the uncomfortableness they reach out to the one person that understands them best, the ex. Inevitably the once ended relationship regains its momentum, and you suddenly find yourself in love with this person again. In some, and I mean some, cases this is the right thing. I can't speak about that aspect of a relationship because it has never happened that way for me, but I caution people to look twice at their actions. Is this true love or is it a habitual love? Is this true love or is it a lack of comfort love? Love is a crazy thing and none of us may ever find out what it really means, but one thing that I find is true in all love situations is that not only do you need to follow your heart, you also need to use your brain. Too often, I feel, people only do the heart following part and neglect their brain and what it is saying to do. So.....is it possible for two people to be friends after a break up? Let me know, by leaving a comment below. I will read every one. Thanks for stopping by and I will see you next week.
From my experiences, it may seem like the other person may be a good friend after the break up, but in reality it is just a way of holding onto what the two of you shared together. This is not all bad, of course. Every relationship has its ups and downs. It is good to remember the good times, but don't let the good times over shadow the bad ones to the point of questioning your relationship status. This is the problem some people have in remaining friends with an ex. It is comfortable to be around this person and you don't want that comfort to end. It is hard starting over. So, within the uncomfortableness they reach out to the one person that understands them best, the ex. Inevitably the once ended relationship regains its momentum, and you suddenly find yourself in love with this person again. In some, and I mean some, cases this is the right thing. I can't speak about that aspect of a relationship because it has never happened that way for me, but I caution people to look twice at their actions. Is this true love or is it a habitual love? Is this true love or is it a lack of comfort love? Love is a crazy thing and none of us may ever find out what it really means, but one thing that I find is true in all love situations is that not only do you need to follow your heart, you also need to use your brain. Too often, I feel, people only do the heart following part and neglect their brain and what it is saying to do. So.....is it possible for two people to be friends after a break up? Let me know, by leaving a comment below. I will read every one. Thanks for stopping by and I will see you next week.
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